Alone for the Holidays? Beat the Loneliness

Although the holidays are often thought of as a time of togetherness, it can be a very lonely season for many seniors. More seniors live alone than ever before and an increasing number of families live far apart.

Feeling lonely is stressful, but the realities of social isolation can be even more challenging around the holidays. Learn about the feelings behind social isolation and try our tips to beat the holiday blues.

Loneliness describes the feeling of being alone; social isolation refers to a lack of social contacts and having few people to interact with regularly.

Studies suggest perceived social isolation, or loneliness, is a risk factor for poor overall cognitive performance, faster cognitive decline, poor executive functioning, increased negativity, and depression.

The impact on emotions, decisions, behaviors, and interpersonal interactions contribute to the ties between loneliness and cognitive decline, or morbidity in general.

If you notice yourself feeling isolated, try to get out and talk to someone as soon as you can. Feelings of loneliness and isolation can be alleviated, but it’s easier to get motivated when the feelings first arise.

Here are a few tips to follow to help beat the holiday blues. 

Do things that make you happy. Maybe that’s baking your favorite treat or watching an old movie. Engage in traditions that bring you joy, and be kind and gentle with yourself.

If your family isn’t as excited about the holidays as you are, find small ways to celebrate just for you. Maybe your family lives far away or works long hours. Set your expectations accordingly and do things that make you happy.

Social isolation and feelings of loneliness are very common, you’re not alone. Reach out to others who are also alone for the holidays.

Don’t wait for people to reach out to you, go ahead and call the ones you miss. If your family isn’t available, there are numerous resources for seniors. Places like local senior centers, Conviva Care Center, or the YMCA are great spots to meet other people looking to make friends

It can be hard to focus on what’s missing when you’re feeling lonely. You can turn it around by focusing on all the beauty in your life. Try writing a gratitude list each day. It can start small, like gratitude for a good cup of coffee in your favorite cup. Make it a goal to grow your list more each day.

Giving to those in need is one of the greatest sources of joy, especially around the holidays. If you’re unable to give financially, consider giving your time to a soup kitchen, donating canned goods or clothes to a local shelter, or simply helping a neighbor. Service work is one of the best ways to overcome negative emotions and experience life.

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